All too often there are many men who complain,they hate being the "nice guy" or women treat them like crap because they are "too nice". And they begin all the hooha about how bad guys getting all the girls they want.
Now let's make a clear distinction between being nice and being the "nice guy." They are 2 different things. But because of these "nice guys", being nice has become something negative.
"Nice guys" don't get women because women sense ulterior motives to their niceness in them.And let's face it guys,we all have this very negative tendency to treat the woman we are pursuing extra "nice" or the Hollywood chick flick kind of nice.Thus we become the "nice guy".
This sudden change of behaviour kills attraction. Yes,you can be unpredictable but if niceness is not a trait people usually praise you for,don't suddenly turn into the "nice guy."
Be yourself.
Now on the flip side,if you're nice to EVERYONE around you,you'll never complain that you don't get women because you're the nice guy.
p.s: I trust you guys know the difference between being nice and being a pushover?
5 comments:
yes...mr. nice guy definitely can finish last because mr. nice guy is TOO nice. There is no mystery...No oomph factor.
A happy medium for niceness is just being a gentleman. Which should come naturally....opening doors, letting the lady go first etc.
Bad guys don't neccessarily get all the ladies either. There is a difference between bad guy and ACTUAL bad guy. If a guy calls me a raging hormonal bitch, I'm not asking him to hang out!
Yes, I totally agree with where you're getting at.
Raging hormonal bitch! HAAH! If any girl were to go out with a guy who just called her that, most probably has self esteem issues and thinks she wouldn't be able to score with another guy.
Be it the guy or the girl, it's the sense of mystery that the person has, which makes us want more.
But you've got to admit. Bad boys get most of the girls, because girls find it hard to figure them out. It's like a kid on a puzzle. The moment he's figured out, he's not enticing enough for her.
Guys who are nice on the other hand tend to be figured out more easily. Or at least that's how I see it, from this side of the fence.
Not necessarily,guys who are nice are figured out too easily.
"Nice guys" wear their heart on their sleeve,thinking this equals honesty.
Trouble is they don't realise if you reveal everything about yourself all at once,there's no 'mystery' to unravel bit by bit.
A guy who's nice or anyone for that matter who reveals themselves bit by bit still retains mystery.
screw you ash!
Whatever babe :D
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